THEY'D RATHER BE SOMEWHERE ELSE AND THEY FEEL OBLIGATED TO SPEND A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF TIME WITH THE PEOPLE THAT THEY ARE ACTUALLY THE CLOSEST TO...THIS FRIGHTENS THE HECK OUT OF THEM...BECAUSE THEIR SELF IMAGE IS BEING WILDLY FREE, OBLIGATED TO NO ONE, MAKING THEIR OWN RULES, AND BEING DEPENDENT ON NO ONE...EXCEPT WHEN THEY COME DOWN WITH THE FLU, OR STUB THEIR TOE ON A BARBELL AND ACTUALLY FRACTURE IT, THEN THEY NEED US AND WANT US NEAR, TO BABY THEM...
WE KNOW THAT THEY'RE BIG AND STRONG AND WHEN WE CAN'T OPEN A NEW JAR OF JAM AND THEY COME ALONG AND SAY, "GIVE IT HERE", AND YOU HAND IT TO HIM, AND IN LESS THAN A SECOND, IT'S OPEN, AND YOU BOTH SMILE, AS HE HANDS IT BACK TO YOU...AND YOU WITHOUT THINKING KISS HIM ON HIS CHEEK, AND HE SMILES MORE, AND YOU THINK HOW MUCH YOUR SON IS LIKE HIS FATHER...AND THE MOMENT SHARED MAKES HIM NERVOUS, AND HE TURNS AWAY...INTIMACY...ALSO FRIGHTENS THEM, AND, IT FRIGHTENS ME, I GUESS THAT'S MY MASCULINE SIDE, THE SIDE OF ME THAT MY HUSBAND LIKED, WHEN I BECAME HIS BUDDY, RATHER THAN HIS WIFE...
AND WHEN HE LISTENS TO HIS SON COMPLAIN ABOUT HIS GIRLFRIEND NOT BEING KIND TO HIM, HE RESISTS SAYING, HOW ALL FEMALES ARE THE SAME, BECAUSE THEY REALLY AREN'T, AND NEITHER ARE MEN, OR ANY OF US, EXCEPT WHEN WE NEED TO BE CARED FOR AND HELD, AND NOTHING NEEDS TO BE SAID, BUT WHEN YOU FEEL HIS WARM BODY AND HIS HEART BEATING, IT HELPS RELAX YOU, AND HE'S HOLDING YOU JUST RIGHT, NOT TOO TIGHT, NOR TOO LOOSE, JUST RIGHT.
(C)COPYRIGHTED BY GWEN MITCHELL ON THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 22, 2016 AT THE WEST HOLLYWOOD PUBLIC LIBRARY, WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA 90069.
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